When you were little, did you love to color? I did. I still do. There's nothing like a fresh set of paints or a new box of crayons to ignite the artist. On this page, Crayola lists America's top fifty colors and the personality traits associated with each. I am such a sucker for these personality tests. I love how they always have an element of the truth in them. I chose my three favourite crayon colors from the front page and then clicked through to the descriptions and here's what they said...
The personality traits of plum are highly creative, spiritual, and introspective. Purple is the most abundant color in nature and many colors are named after purple flowers. Plum - although it was called Royalty on the paint chip - is the color I painted the exterior doors and the Adirondack chairs at my previous home. That first summer, I was thrilled to see that the paint color exactly matched the color of the Liatris which must be why I love that flower so much. Plum is a color I can actually wear as opposed to...
... my all time favourite - lime - which is called Woodland Green on the paint chip and was the color of the walls in my previous studio. Lime is associated with positiveness, success, and energy. In stained glass, the color green represents hope and victory over ignorance and symbolizes happiness and youth. Sounds like a great color to have around especially for a self-directed, life-long learner.
You can see both plum and lime in the textile piece over the dark blue couch in my previous living room. This dark shade of blue is my third favourite color and is associated with confidence, strength, peace, contentment, and security. I was intrigued to read that blue is viewed as a protective color and that in the southeastern and southwestern United States doors are often painted blue to ward off evil spirits. Interesting.
While I was painting trim yesterday, I thought a lot about Seraphinalina's comment that she finds it wonderful to hear me talk so positively about my husband. He's certainly not perfect and neither am I and we've both had moments when even though we love each other, we weren't too much in like. You can't be married as long as we've been without having a few thoughts about whether you're staying or leaving and we've both admitted to that but for me, it comes down to commitment to a man I can respect. Howard is loyal, responsible, reliable, hard working, loving, encouraging, supportive, dependable and numerous other positive characteristics that I completely appreciate especially when they are aimed at me.
When I hear some women talk about their husbands or the situations in which they live, it's like they are owned by another person and not allowed to develop their interests or their fullest potential or even to function independently. And I encourage them to develop a backbone and show some self respect. Many (not all) women are in those situations because they are afraid to rock the boat but this is our one and precious life. I'm not spending mine being anyone but me. I don't ask permission to move furniture, paint walls, cut my hair, or wear certain clothes all of which I've known women to have to ask permission for. I know one woman whose husband chooses her entire wardrobe and tells her what to wear when they go out ! ! ! ! and when I was a hairdresser, it was very common for a woman to say she wanted to cut her hair a certain way only her husband wouldn't let her.
I cut my hair - or not - depending on what I want to do with my hair and I sew my wardrobe - in my studio - and I have always had a studio. It's a priority for me and it's a priority for Howard. If it wasn't a priority for him, he would be forcing me to change from the woman he wanted to marry and that doesn't make sense. If you didn't want me, why'd you ask? I was talking to a woman a few weeks ago who recently built a 3,600 square foot house for just her and her husband. They have a massive master bedroom with a humongous bathroom, an in-door gym, a pool table, a shuffleboard table, a media room below the double garage, two guest rooms, and a study but apparently there is no room for a studio even though she loves to sew. It is beyond my comprehension to build a home, especially one that large, for only two people, that doesn't include a studio and if I tried to Howard would stop me because Myrna without a studio would make everyone's life miserable.
Howard has the garage and a den. He's introverted and once he realized how important a space of his own was, we've included it in every move. He has a motorcycle, musical instruments, and extensive computer equipment. He's heavily involved in a ministry in Guatemala where I won't be going but I certainly support him in the work he does there and while he doesn't have a clue about sewing, he makes sure I attend workshops and that I have the equipment and supplies I need. He's been ill for almost twenty years. He's in constant pain and has extreme stiffness throughout his body and rarely complains and is thrilled with each new birthday because he never expected to see forty, never mind fifty, never mind that he'll be fifty-five this year.
What I'm trying to say is that we both feel that what the other loves is important and we encourage that interest as opposed to try to eliminate it as some couples do. We have a high level of respect for each other that gets us through the tougher times. He treats me like I walk on water and sometimes that's not good for me because a person shouldn't get everything they want. Believe it or not, that has been one of our arguments BUT... I appreciate that he works hard every day to support our life together and treats me with courtesy - like EVERY time we go out together, he opens the car door for me.
I'm often asked why I "allow" him to ride a motorcycle and my only comment is that we've agreed when he can't put his foot down, time's up. Taking his bike away would be like taking my sewing machine away. Not going to happen. Besides, I don't own him. I don't allow or not allow him to do anything just as he doesn't allow or not allow me to do anything. People do not own people. I cannot relate to staying with a man you do not respect and who doesn't respect you enough to support your individuality and interests and especially a man who believes you exist to make his life easier as opposed to mutually supporting each other. Love does not squash the other person.
Some men I know expect their wife to be up at three or four in the morning to make their breakfast and pack their lunch after packing their suitcase so they can head off on a trip. Why do those women get up? My take on that is make your own breakfast, make your own lunch, pack your own suitcase, you're an adult and I am not a slave. I feel the same way about my children. My job is not to do everything for them. My job is to raise them up to be self supporting, independent adults. I wasn't put on earth to make everyone else's life easier at the expense of my own. Besides, love gives you a hug and a kiss and says don't get up, you need your rest, I'll see you when I get back. At least, the man I love says that.
Talk soon - Myrna
Grateful - color