Do you live life from a perspective of lack or a perspective of plenty? Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty kind of person? It's a conversation I've been having with a number of people over the past few weeks - how do they approach life and how's that working for them?
Even though we were more than comfortable, not lacking in any of the essentials, and had plenty of extras, I grew up in a home that focused on lack. So did my husband. The terminology our parents used, and the general feeling we came away with was one of not enough and that's the attitude we both carried forward into our adult lives. I don't believe a focus on lack is limited to money even though it certainly starts there. It's insidious. If you allow it, it can get into every corner of life.
One of my goals is to learn (continue to learn) to think and talk and move through life with the perspective of plenty. It's why I always include something at the bottom of each posting that I'm grateful for and I'm amazed at how hard that can be some days - which is a whole statement in itself - that I would struggle to find one thing to be grateful for - which surely means I'm overlooking the obvious because I am alive and typing at the time and that's amazing.
I've been working on this goal for almost ten years now and I have to say it's quite difficult... because of that voice in our head... you know... the one who says yeah but... or sure... or get real... or any of those other self sabotaging phrases that make us feel less than who we really are.
We all have voices from our past that haunt our present. They meld together shaping themselves into the inner critic who seems to attack just when everything is going wonderfully positive. The inner critic is a common conversation in art - the voice of doubt and uncertainty and criticism.
Strangely enough - or perhaps not - it's in the area of creativity that I've most strongly conquered that perspective of lack. The pieces I produce are not as creative as I know I can be and I find that awareness encouraging rather than demoralizing. When I meet someone who is far more creative than I am, it's an honest thrill because I know I can learn from them and that I can move from this place where I am now to a new place that is even more creative. I'm on a path. I'm moving in that direction. I am...
... in the process of being amazingly creative. It's such a strong belief that the universe supports it, which sounds all misty swirly mysterious and yet, to me, is simply about clarity and belief. God can't do much to help an indecisive person who keeps hopping on and off the fence. Pick a path and things change.
My ability to see plenty in the area of creativity and to talk with plentiful language in that space gives me hope for the areas where I'm struggling. And I pay close attention to the people I know who live from a perspective of plenty, listening to their terminology, watching their actions, looking at their character and their choices. Don't you think it's amazing how we can learn from others?
The Fabricland near my daughter's house was having a FABULOUS sale this weekend. Over half the store was marked down 70% and the bargain center was marked down an additional 50%. As you can see, I saw plenty of potential.
The first picture is (top to bottom) a satin-like polyester in lime, cream, and black, a light-weight cotton with dobby dots and embroidery along each selvage as shown in the detail, and a heavier, cotton print. The third picture is a layered black and pink mesh knit, a black, purple and cream t-shirt knit, and a fuchsia wool polyester blend coating. The fourth picture is a flocked knit, a light-weight striped crushed polyester skirt-ish fabric, a denim knit, and striped denim with 2% spandex.
The amber, metallic embroidered, crushed batik is so not in my color range but I loved it and bought 1 1/2 meters for something... probably a little girl's dress. I bought one meter of the knit mesh and between three and five meters of the others and the total bill was just over $100.00. THAT's the perspective of plenty that I'm working to have in all areas of my life... especially with relationships...
... because I believe that life is all about relationships and that it's the people in our lives who are the most important ingredient. We had a good visit with our daughter and son-in-law this weekend and plenty of snuggle time with our (absolutely adorable and yes I'm biased) grandson. It was good.
Talk soon - Myrna
Grateful - growing the perspective of plenty