Thursday, March 13, 2014

Just Paints For Me

The sun is shining. The sky is blue. The snow is mostly gone and spring is finally in the air. Yesterday was the prefect day for a road trip. My friend Rosemarie came along with me to...





... Opus in Kelowna, about two and a half hours away. This is the nearest art supply center that sells the Jacquard paints I wanted for my new adventures in surface design.





I bought a large container of black, a small one each of white and of white pearlescent, and a small one each of yellow, red, blue, green, purple, fuchsia, and turquoise along with a copper of Setacolor paint and a broad black Tee Juice pen. They had a very poor selection of the pens which is unfortunate as I wanted a range of sizes BUT... these are - LOL - a good beginning.





Next door is the Water Garden boutique with jewellry, accessories, home decor, and other gift items. I bought one of my favourite necklaces in this store last year and saw several more this time that I wouldn't have minded owning only - having just bought all my lovely paints - I carefully looked the other way.





My friend - on the other hand - fell in love with an Italian made linen and knit dress that looked absolutely fabulous on her. The fabric was high end and the details divine. There was a slightly different variation in black and I carefully looked the other way from that too so I wouldn't even be tempted to try it on. Paints. Just paints for me.





After lunch, we stopped at Art Of Yarn, a store full of luscious blends. The display of buttons was fantastic. I only admired it since I have more than enough buttons in stash right now and no specific project in mind BUT... I definitely know where to go when I want something different.

It was a quick trip leaving after breakfast and returning before dinner but we had a lot of fun. I especially enjoyed our conversation. We talked all the way there, all through lunch, and all the way back. It was great.

My oldest son bought me Dot Complicated by Randi Zuckerberg for Christmas. I'm enjoying the book only it's a lot like preaching to the choir since I'm not all that technologically savvy...well... maybe not even the choir because I'm under-technical for this era. I'm computer literate, can design my own website, and write the blog but I don't do Facebook or Twitter or any of those social media groups and I have a cell phone but it stays in the car for use during emergencies. I'm not interested in carrying a phone around and being always on and I have no idea how to send a text and no desire to learn. I do however...

.... have an opinion on what Randi describes as electronic cocaine, a lack of tech etiquette, and a tech-life imbalance. I've reached my limit on attempting to spend time with friends who are sitting across from me but not talking to me because they are checking their phone, reading something on their tablet, or doing research on the Internet. I'm sure I'll lose friends but I am no longer willing to spend my time, money, and energy with someone who is not spending their time, money, or energy with me and is instead spending MY time with THEIR technology. I find it unbelievably rude and so many people are in denial about their addiction that I've reached the snap point on putting up with it which is why I asked this particular friend to go on this road trip. Not only is she available during the week, she doesn't own a phone or if she does, I have no idea.

Talk soon - Myrna

Grateful - a delightful day

20 comments:

  1. Boy am I with you on rude tech addicts! I certainly appreciate the internet and spend time in the morning and evening reading my emails, reading sewing blogs (like yours) and exploring all sorts of things but my phone is just an old flip phone that serves as a phone- period. Call me old fashion but I value my life away from home (and the computer). I'm anxious to see what you create with your new paints! Karen

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    1. LOL - I'm curious to see what I create too. Should be fun. I bought the turquoise for a project I'm working on now so it'll get used right away.

      Tech balance does seem to be an up and coming concern especially as so many people are in denial and don't realize the extent of their addiction or denial.

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  2. I am with you also on rude tech addicts. I do read and research on the internet, use my iPad for patterns, etc. I have an iPhone and carry it all the time due to the fact I may need to do a 911 call. Then again I do carry my glucose kit and snacks too. At meetings I have my phone on vibrate unless I have an important call coming in which I do tell people. But, I hate it when people have to interact on their phone when they are visiting with you, walking down the street, across the street, etc.
    Looking forward to what you will create with your paints.

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    1. I understand what you're saying but I even have trouble with your sentence about having an important call coming in. Important is subjective and any one person's decision that their call is important does not allow the other people involved to have input in determining if the call is actually important enough to interrupt their meeting. It's not their decision but it is their consequences. I see so many ways in which the other person's right to be involved in decisions that affect them is neglected. I experienced this recently over a health issue. The other person was deciding if they felt well enough to do something with me but didn't allow me to decide if I thought they were well enough for me to do the activity with them. Showing up to lunch with a massive head cold and then apologizing would be somewhere along that line as in not asking if I wanted to risk getting a cold for lunch with them. Common courtesies are now uncommon and there's far too much rationalization and justification for what is essentially rude behaviour. Our culture is losing the awareness of rude even those of us old enough to know better.

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    2. Myrna i take your point but at the same time people need their privacy. I may be waiting on the results of a colon biopsy, here in the USA doctors call when they call and depending on their schedule if they leave a voicemail it may be days before you can talk to them again. Do you want to have the entire business meeting discuss whether you should take the call or wait? Not to even mention that you could very well be waiting for an important business related call - when i worked in customer sales/service at a software company NO meeting was EVER more important than taking a customer call.

      Still and all, people are rude these days and technology offers more opportunities for rudeness. But people still practice the old, classic ways of being rude which i remember from back in the day....passing around the lastest and greatest bug being an all time fave ;)

      And i don't know why you call your self 'non-tech savvy' - you yourself listed all the skills you have. You're obviously tuned in to what's going on in the sewing/creative blogosphere and perfectly competent at performing web searches. i'm sure if for some reason you needed to text (never say never, you may want to communicate with a person who has unlimited text but has blown thru their call minutes and who has a massive e-mail virus) you could search how to do it and be up and running in about four minutes.

      I see nothing to be ashamed of with being knowledgeable and competent with technology, for me the issue is whether or not a person uses that tech in a helpful, creative, positive way or not. I'm even on Facebook ( ! ), but mostly because it's the easiest way to keep in touch with a very dear friend, my brother, and one group of people surrounding a paranormally-and weird music - focussed radio show i like to listen to. So i just limit it to that.

      Your road trip sounds awesome!!! The best!!! yum paint (those jacquards are sweeeet! i like to use a lot of fabric medium with them, but then i prefer a washed-out low-contrast aesthetic, hee! That Water Garden boutique looks scrumptious, oh man i have cabin fever! Due to this recent health hoo-ha, i've been out of the house to someplace besides our local grocery and drug store (or doc/ER/etc.) twice the last two months. I am DYING to get over to Berkeley or SF, wish me luck as this weekend looks promising :)

      And very good of you to stick to paints only - you inspire us all to greater heights!!!! take care and have fun, steph

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    3. Yes, people do need their privacy however, saying I'm expecting a call from my doctor especially in an environment where people understand why that would be important is a vastly different statement than giving all the details and one would have to weigh out whether or not to actually attend the meeting if they are dealing with a more critical situation. It all depends. There's always more to the story and cases are individualized however, having recently sat through someone's call from their doctor in a location where I couldn't escape being involved, I resented that my privacy and my time was not respected, that it was decided for me that that person's issues were more important than anything I might want or need. I think there are more cases of interruptions that are not really important as opposed to ones that are critically important and there's a lot of grey in the middle that is interpreted as critical when it's not really.

      If a company chooses to prioritize customer calls, than that's a corporate decision that has been made and is followed by every other person in the meeting. That's vastly different than taking - or making - a personal call during a business or social meeting.

      I'm not concerned about people being tech savvy. If that's what they enjoy, perfect for them and you're right in that if I was sufficiently motivated I may learn to text but I doubt it would be because someone's minutes ran out. What I'm concerned about is people being tech rude especially when their rudeness affects others around them. I think it's going to be a bigger and bigger issue with some serious ramifications especially in terms of relationships.

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    4. To me it comes down to people talking about how they want to handle these things before and after they come up, and also how much you trust a person's judgement. There's the extremes and there's the grey areas, and i feel bad about lumping in well-meaning people who are doing their best in trying circumstances with your standard run of the mill weenie. I whole-heartedly agree that these ubiquitous smartfones add a whole new area for rudeness. I also agree that a lot of people are getting even ruder than before. At the same time, most of the truly appalling rudeness i see day to day doesn't involve technology, unfortunately i think it's running a lot deeper than just the new toys we have.

      Here in the USA, over the last 30 years the overall culture has become MUCH more materialistic and workaholic. People have to work much longer hours to get the same compensation (in terms of being able to clothe, feed, house yourself and family) and employers feel no compunction about people being 'on call' all the time. Here in the larger SF Bay Area commute times are crazy. So for many people it's simply harder to find time for family and social time. And a lot of people are obsessed with money, and think that if they have some to spend the whole world should revolve around them.

      Around here this tends to translate into, "I am here as a paying customer so any whim i have must be accommodated IMMEDIATELY and any action i take, up to and including a full on tantrum, should not only be tolerated but applauded." It drives me nuts. Full grown alleged 'adults' throwing a hissy fit because it's six pm on a Friday nite and they have two (OMG!!! TWO!!) people ahead of them in line at the grocery store. I start talking about how the store should have at least six people waiting up in the rafters above the checkstands at all times, so that any time there is more than a fifteen second wait for any customer whatsoever the checkers can rappel down and service the consumer NOW.

      i get a lot of sour looks ;) ah, well. Don't get me started on people who block off whole aisles due to thoughtless cart placement!

      But seriously best of luck with hashing this stuff out. And let us know what works and what not so much - like you say, it adds a whole new dimension to this whole 'trying to get along as a civilized society' game. heehee, i used that texting example because it happened a few weeks ago with a tech client of my dad and mine's - i would have seriously doubted it too, until it happened! But i did appreciate the consideration our client showed in doing his best to avoid passing along the virus that was making his life v. complicated. He hadn't been able to work much for over a year due to some eye troubles (making him legally blind, happily resolved now) and he needs phone minutes for his sideline business, so quite understandable. I guess this is a good example of how, i've found, for me it's more about people communicating about how tech is going to impact the relationship, how to handle it so that it works out for both people, more than the tech per se.

      Again, best of luck and know that there's a lot of us in the same bucket!! It's vexing, for sure. steph

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    5. Exactly. I don't think there is a one answer solution but I also know that there won't be any kind of solution what-so-ever until people start speaking up about what they are and what they are not willing to tolerate. As I said, I know I'll lose friends - I always seem to be the messenger in the don't shoot, oh damn you just shot, the messenger scenario - but it seems to me that friends - and I am predominately speaking from a friend-to-friend or family-to-family but definitely a social not business perspective - who are not willing to consider the ramifications of the situation perhaps are not as good of friends as you thought. It's never pleasant to discover that a phone is more important than you - LOL.

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    6. My importance was when I was waiting to hear if the meeting I was at had gotten their grant. We were all waiting for the call I was to receive. Otherwise my phone is not heard.

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  3. My parents (aged 82 and 77) demanded that all cell-phones and computers be surrendered to them for the duration of our family's week long vacation at the beach together. They allowed an hour's use in the evening to anyone who "needed" it. My husband's job depends on his phone, but he is exceedingly polite about using it around others, so he was granted an exception. No one suffered immoderately, no one died from not having instant access to everything, no one even missed their phones much by the end of the week. Ma & Pa Kettle were happy not to compete with beeps and buzzes all week ... their hearing aids do quite enough squawking and popping for anyone's entertainment. I'm so happy you had a pleasant day shopping with your like-minded friend!

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    1. Yes Yes - all my boys have to turn off their phones when they come to dinner. I didn't cook for the fun of it.

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  4. Fun road trip! You were very restrained on your purchases, Myrna. Interesting to see where the paint ends up.

    I'm with you that twitching over a phone or iPad is just rude when you are in company. Technology is both a blessing and a curse! I personally love my internet but have to restrict myself from spending too much time on it - in private of course. I don't Facebook or Twitter either. But I truly hate telephones. 95% of the calls are salesmen or ads. Spam! We never answer ours but people must leave a message or they don't talk to us. Email works just fine for most things and at least I can block the spam. I want it to be on my terms or not at all!

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    1. Well... my budget helped me be restrained.

      It's always fun to see how we're so much the same and so different. I actually LOVE phones because I think life is about relationships and I work hard at maintaining mine and one of my favorite things is a good conversation. I really appreciate how the phone connects me with friends further away. It's my second best choice, followed by email, preceded by being face-to-face. But I don't like triangles - me, my friend, and their technology.

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  5. I can't wait to see what you do with the paint!!!

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  6. I'd be interested on your experience with the Tee Juice pen. I've thought about buying a set but am just not sure whether it's for me.

    The technology conundrum is a big one. I promise to turn my phone off when I see you. ;)

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    1. I'm not sure what to think of the pens. I see them as the black outline in cross stitch - they add definition - but I need to play with them and see how I can/will use them. I think I'll need a broader range of sizes though.

      LOL - too funny. Thank you. It'll be more fun to visit without either of our phones. I'll leave mine in the car.

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  7. Hey! No fair, you came to Kelowna and didn't let me know. Of course I was working so I wouldn't have been able to see you anyway, but still...... Is it a bad thing that I actually recognized Opus's street address?

    I have to chime in on the tech issue. I don't mind if someone writes a short text to a spouse or a child when with me, I do mind when texting goes on and on. The worst case of tech rudeness I have experienced is when a very old and dear friend came for a visit. She loves to take photographs and after we had dinner, she opened up her laptop and proceeded to ignore all of us (her husband included) while editing and cropping and doing who knows what else to her photographs. It felt to me like she was deliberately putting a physical barrier between us. She didn't participate in any conversations or anything that was going on around her. It was very disconcerting. I didn't say anything about her behaviour, perhaps I should have. I wonder if she does this everywhere she goes.

    When/if we get together I will have my phone on mute and I won't text anyone. I promise.

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    1. LOL - too funny. I thought you might see that. I don't think it's bad at all that you recognized the address. SUCH a fun store. I was thinking we could get together the week of the 24th. Email me privately and let me know what days you have available and we can figure something out. VBG - thanks for the promise.

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    2. I will have to wait to see what my schedule at work is like. I changed jobs and am working at lot more than I was, and a little more than I want to 8-). The next schedule starts on the 25th and will be out on Monday, so I will get back to you then.

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