Monday, August 25, 2014

A True And Safe Question

We took these pictures on Saturday just before heading off to the wedding. Apparently, along with how I'm standing and whether my chin is a mile up in the air and do I have a weird smile on my face and is my hair doing crazy things, we need to watch for sun spots. Photography is complicated.





The dress is ULTRA comfortable. I don't know if that's due to the style lines or the fabric I chose but it's quite wonderful, more wonderful than it looks in these images. When how we feel in a garment doesn't match how the picture looks, which impression do we go with? I have found the camera to be both truthful and a liar.




The dress makes me feel slim and feminine. The pictures don't. It doesn't help that when I asked my youngest son if he liked my new dress, he said he liked the color and when I asked don't you think it gives me a nice figure, he said if you want to look like a fat old lady - ouch - so I asked don't you think it makes my waist look small thinking this was a true and safe question and he said, that's not your waist and pointed to an area near my high hip and said that was my waist.





I decided we should stop talking about the dress and how it looked on me and have an anatomy lesson instead - and perhaps a sewing one - about waists and pant waists. It was much safer. I will conclude that it does indeed make my waist look small.

Talk soon - Myrna

Grateful - beautiful sunrises

There is little sense in attempting to change external conditions, you must first change inner beliefs then outer conditions will change accordingly. 
- Brian Adams

24 comments:

  1. When you posted that you were making this dress, I thought it would be a dud. I was wrong, it is wonderful! Feminine, comfortable, with a twist of different. Well done!

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    1. Thank you. AND it feels wonderful on. This is good.

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  2. The dress is great on you! Anytime you can get comfort to go with great style lines, it doesn't matter what the camera (or a snippy son) says. I originally thought this pattern was ultra-casual, but you've changed my mind. The statement necklace suits it just fine,too.

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    1. My husband saw it as quite dressy. I wonder if it's the necklace that did that or the fit. It certainly could go casual or dressy which is a nice feature.

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  3. I think the dress is very flattering on you and I love the color, too. DS needs a bit of an education on how to answer questions like, "Does this look good on me/" with a resounding "Yes, my Pet". But that will come in due time. I suppose husbands learn those responses much faster than sons do. (^:

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    1. LOL - but I do appreciate honesty and like to hear what they really think... even if I don't always agree.

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  4. My two sons hate everything I wear, and I wear a lot of what you wear! Lol. I can't wait to make this dress. I might make two. Teenage boys won't stop me from loving my funky dresses. Why take advice on fashion from someone who has to be reminded to shower, that's what I say!

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    1. YES YES - nice to have company. I have one pair of pants they try to refuse to go out with me in but I don't let them get away with it. Me is me. This particular son LOVES color and has "interesting" fashion sense himself. I love that.

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  5. This dress looks great on you - I love everything about it. Sons!

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    1. Thank you. Sons.... they are lucky we love them too.

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  6. My mother's advice, which I have found to be more and more true, the older I get: Never ask a question to which you do not want to know the answer. You've got to laugh at the honesty of children sometimes. I think the dress DOES make your waist narrow. (Also, what's wrong with being a fat old lady? I am happily in that camp. Have food enough to make me fat, and time enough to eat it. I read a quote in a Jane & Michael Stern cookbook, "Square Meals," that I have adopted as a philosophy of life: Happiness is more youth-inducing than slimness, so eat another cookie.)

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    1. Oh yes, so true BUT... an answer like I like the color just sucks you in. You know you shouldn't but still you ask wondering how bad will this get before I bail. LOVE the quote.

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  7. oh, some funny and true comments here! "... someone who has to be reminded to shower..." oh, touche!

    The still camera loves straight lines and angles, high contrast, glossy surfaces.....and 'dislikes' the opposites (curvy lines and soft angles, low to medium contrast, fuzzy textures). By contrast, video cameras tend to love the opposite of still cameras, i think it would be interesting to see a video of you in this dress in movement to compare the two. In addition, still pictures flatten out volumes, whereas your eye and mind construct three dimensional images. This is exactly the type of outfit which can look graceful and feminine in person while being quite difficult to capture its charms in a still photograph.

    You look really beautiful in this outfit, Myrna! I got this pattern, i hope to squeak it out of some apple green shadow-striped linen. I even purchased some elastic and stoppers like on the envelope, i will look so up to date! (heehee!) Enjoy your gorgeous dress, Myrna! steph

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    1. Interesting info about the camera. I'll see if I can find time to make a video and we can compare. Can't wait to see your version.

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    2. oh, I think it would be fascinating to see the differences that Steph describes. It would help a lot of us if you have the time and inclination to do so!

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    3. I'll aim in that direction. Just need to either figure out how to do it myself or a time when someone else can help.

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  8. My almost-15 year old son also calls it as he sees it--and that can be extremely helpful and refreshing, or abrupt and deflating. I bet you have similar ambivalence about getting a truly unfiltered perspective.

    I really like the dress on you, after having been a bit uncertain how I would like it in construction. It's very, very nice.

    I had a recent bout of liking something in person and on my dress form much more than in the photos of me wearing it (Butterick 5845 tunic is the number I think). I'm taking some comfort in Steph's thought-provoking remarks above!

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    1. You ask and then you wish you hadn't but now you're curious so you keep going and... it's an education. He's 20.

      I'm glad the dress surprised you. Me too for Steph's photo info. YES YES.

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  9. Myrna, You did a fabulous job with your dress. I love it. And I love that it is comfortable. I think it was Chanel that said comfort above all else:) It takes our children a long time to grow up:) Eventually, they learn and then with all our best love and advice...............move on to their own lives! You looked beautiful in your dress. Looking forward to seeing more creations. Darby

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    1. Thank you. That sounds like a "go with Chanel" statement. Thanks for the compliment. I have another Origami Skirt cut out so that's probably next. For my upcoming trip.

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  10. The dress is wonderful and it does show how small your waist is. How awesome to make a dress that expresses your esthetic, is very comfortable to wear, flatters your curves and makes you happy. I love it! YAY Myrna!!

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    1. Thanks. LOL - I'll be sure and let my son know.

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  11. OMG OW!! Kids!!

    At the risk of being repetitive - the dress is beautiful and very flattering.

    What sucks is that there is beauty to being a lady, there is beauty to being old, and there is beauty to a gorgeous lush fat figure. Not applying any of these to you if you don't want them - but "fat old lady" shouldn't be a phrase that excludes beauty. Right? Right!!!

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    1. Honesty is a good thing. To be fair, he didn't say you are..., he said if you want to look... which is - somewhat - informative and totally subjective. He though it was a weird dress. Weird is good with me.

      Beauty is many things. You're so right.

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