Thursday, January 29, 2015

Shape Embracing

At the end of the day you have to ask yourself: Of the many different lives that can be lived, which is the one that's going to inspire you? - Angela Bassett





Years ago, when I was still creating textile art, I took a rectangular piece that I no longer wanted as a centerpiece on my dining room table and cut it into twelve equal parts that then became the front and backs of six different purses. At the start, I could pursue six of the step one ideas that occurred to me but after that, I could only explore one each of the step two or step three or step four ideas for each of the purses. Each idea taken was a journey explored.

When I read Angela's quote, it made me think of the purses. Her thought echoed my learning. Making those purses opened my eyes to the many Many MANY ideas in my life that go unexplored.  They are not necessarily wrong; they are simply ideas that don't inspire me as much as the ones that do get followed. Life is like that. We cannot do anything. We must choose... wisely... as wisely as we can.





Tuesday morning, I had coffee with a woman I first meet eighteen years ago when she was moving to town under difficult circumstances. We hadn't talked since.  I recognized her Monday morning at Starbucks and just to make sure I had the same woman, I asked if she'd been a model and did she have twins. She was surprised - rather stunned - and extremely excited. It seems that I was the only person who could complete a circle in her life and it meant a great deal to her to talk to me and to close that circle. We arranged to have coffee the next morning.

While I was walking that morning, I thought about what to wear. This woman is very beautiful and has a vivacious and outgoing personality. She exudes confidence. At first, I thought I wanted to look good and then I realized that more than anything, I wanted to feel good. I wore an emotionally flattering outfit.

We had a long conversation that went in many interesting directions including - at one point - modeling. As you know, I've been wanting to take a modeling course to feel more comfortable taking pictures for the blog. In the end, I concluded that being comfortable in front of the camera has a line much the same as looking good and feeling good. While someone may be able to tell me about lighting and photography angles and make-up and my best poses, no one - other than myself  - will be able to feel comfortable in front of the camera. That's an inside out job.





Isn't that the same with dressing our bodies - with achieving that beautiful blend of emotional and physical fit? The picture above came from this page on The Skinny Confidential that talks about transforming your body type through exercise. For the pear shape - my shape - it suggest jumping jacks, dips, fast walking no incline, biking, jumping rope, push-ups and/or pull-ups and to avoid squats, lunges, leg presses, sprinting, swimming, kick-boxing, and/or all elliptical machines. Hmm...when I think of all the different lives that I could live, the one that inspires me the most does not include shape shifting. It's beyond looking good and into feeling good. It's all about shape embracing.





Yesterday, I finished all the hand stitching on the seams and tucks of the pants I'm making. With all the changes I've made to the pattern, I've decided they are more original than not and will hereafter be referred to as The Myrna Pants. I've been patting and admiring them so much that it's taking me even longer to finish them. This seems to be the perfect blend of fabric and pattern and detail. I hope so. I can hardly wait to put the waistband on and try them on. Wear them. Feel emotionally fabulous in them. YES YES ! ! !

Talk soon - Myrna

Grateful - reality checks

A renewed understanding of my own dignity and human limits enabled me to place loving boundaries around myself. I soon realized this was central to offering a sincere and genuine gift of love to others. Like God's love, it must be free. And the extent to which I valued and loved myself was the extent to which I was capable of loving others well. 

10 comments:

  1. I could do jumping jacks till the cows came home and I would still be a pear--narrow shoulders and wide hips are bone structure. So I focus on wearing things that speak to me...most often these are in face-flattering colors and figure-flattering shapes, but not always. Sometimes we need to wear some things just for fun, or because they are in-and-of-themselves fabulous. Looking forward to seeing how your pants turn out.

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    1. The part about avoiding inclines made me laugh. How on earth could one actually do that and still live. My walk every morning is at least 1/3 uphill. What I loved about the research I did last week was the part on showing off your curves. YES... we certainly can... and have fun doing it as you say. I'm so glad that as I get older, I'm leaning way Way WAY more in the direction of fun and laughter.

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  2. I completely agree about wearing things that are "emotionally flattering." Whenever there is an event I need to dress up for I try to pick something I feel comfortable in. I figure if I feel comfortable I will look comfortable. If I feel awkward I will look awkward. Sounds like you are making progress towards figuring out what makes you feel comfortable.

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    1. It's not that I didn't know but I think that's something I'm really learning more about right now - that emotionally flattering is in fact more flattering than figure flattering because it brings out the best in us. I've just been going through my photo files gathering images for my assignment with Diane. I think you're right - I am making significant progress and finding that blend between fit, flatter, and fun.

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  3. What a great and intriguing post today! (And if I only had those exercise tips to offer, I would keep them "confidential.")

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    1. LOL - out on the walk I just had to chuckle some more about inclines. It's all up and down with little across. The comments on that page were based on a book that's referenced further down. I am glad that I have never bought a book hoping change my figure in this way. Clothing as camouflage is so much EASIER. You must be about to... or have left... on your trip. HAVE FUN. Can't wait to hear about it.

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  4. That's a crazy list. I really believe that you can't change your basic body shape. Sure you can lose weight and be fit but you will always have the same basic shape. I have really narrow shoulders and there's no way I am going to change my shoulders enough to equal my hips! Being fit and comfortable in my body is really more important and accepting my body goes a long way to having become comfortable. That's a much more realistic goal.

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    1. Exactly. My thoughts too. I may be a narrower or a wider pear but I'm always going to be a pear. YES YES - I so agree - being fit and comfortable and accepting is far more realistic. And so glad we sew.

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  5. Hi Myrna: I always read your blog but don't always post a comment. Today I feel compelled to write to you to thank you for being such an 'inside out' kind of person. You so generously share your journey with us, the hits and the misses. This really resonated with me. And, I can't wait to see a photo of you wearing the Myrna pants. I had to laugh as you described yourself patting and admiring them as you went along. Been there, done that!

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    1. Thanks for commenting. You're welcome. Thank you for allowing me to be an inside out kind of person. The Myrna pants just need elastic. I think tomorrow's post will be late. I haven't had time to write it and I'm just about to run out the door to a meeting. That would let me put the elastic in first - LOL. And then I can pat them some more.

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