... thankfully knitting is fairly straight ahead. My go to knitting project lately is triangle shaped scarves. They start with one stitch and add one to each end of every row until you get to the size you want ending up with a long, narrow scarf that wraps wonderfully around the neck. They're gifts. I don't need nearly as many as I'm knitting.
I would guess that you - like me - have probably received gifts with strings. Gifts that aren't really gifts because you're supposed to bubble wrap them and keep them for posterity and hand them down to your children and your children's children and their children and record these treasures in the ledgers of your family history... only they are not really treasures. I turn down those kinds of gifts. I'm just not into strings.
Being offered gifts with strings made me really think about giving gifts with strings. Did I have expectations? Were they valid? I did and they weren't and I'm changing. Now, I don't give gifts - especially handmade ones - to people who won't appreciate them and when I do, I give the gift completely without expectations around its use and permanence. Sometimes that attitude is hard to maintain and that makes sense when there are emotions involved but I try very hard to make the giving my only part and I have a chat with myself if my feelings are hurt which - thankfully - rarely happens.
The scarf above is knit from a cotton blend. I chose a natural fiber because I'm not sure the recipient even wears scarves and - while I did do some research into the color - if grey isn't her thing, she can over-dye it. The string... the one hanging down... is staying that way so she can either tuck it in or pull it out to change the edge or to turn the yarn into something else. She has choices and...
... choices are important. A gift shouldn't become a burden. I hope that everyone who gets one of my scarves feels the love and encouragement that went into the making of it because I thought about them the whole time I was knitting. I hope they wrap themselves up in the hug, fully embrace it, and then do whatever they want to do with the scarf. YES YES.
How do you feel about gifts... with strings... and gift giving?
Talk soon - Myrna
Grateful - knitting straight ahead
The most important gifts you can give are your love, time, and attention. Slow down, take time to smile and enjoy loved ones... life goes by way too fast.
- Carla White