Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Practicing Perspective

I get the sense that adults feel that they themselves didn't get it right, that they once had something special and let it go. They don't know where it went and how to get it back... 

When we stop playing, we stop developing and when that happens, the laws of entropy take over - things fall apart.
 When we stop playing, we start dying.





... object play with the hands creates a brain that is better suited for understanding and solving problems of all sorts.

Many studies have demonstrated that people who continue to play games, who continue to explore and learn throughout life, are not only less prone to dementia and other neurological problems, but are less likely to get heart disease and other afflictions that seem like they have nothing to do with the brain.

Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stuart Brown





In another posting, I'll show the process and detailed images, however, today I finished the denim coat that I've been working on for over a month. It's been a stop and go process of trying this and that, experimenting, evaluating, making a decision and then changing my mind, paying attention to my intuition, and following the zigzagging path from start to finish. I've been having fun. I've been playing. And it's a happy bonus that I have a new fall coat just as the season is changing.





This morning, I went for a walk along the lake with my camera practicing perspective by framing different images and seeing what developed. The sun was shining and warm. The leaves are tinged with colour and some are beginning their slow, twirling, fall to the ground. The sky was wide, open and intensely blue. This too is play. I've been learning how to get out more - out of the house, out of the studio, out into other versions of myself.





Play is something I've had to deliberately add back into my life. At first, it was difficult. I was more comfortable as a workaholic. Now, it's so amazing that I often feel like a recovering addict wanting everyone to share this perspective, to stop running so fast, to stop missing out on life, to actually be here in this moment. As I walked, I passed a young mom walking her baby in the opposite direction, missing out on baby smiles, missing out on the scenery - she was on her phone. I didn't not yell stop. I did not offer my opinion. But I really wanted to. This time will never come again.





Life is fleeting. It's not that I feel a sense of panic but I'm aware that in a blink I went from toddler to teenager, from young adult to middle aged woman. And while this is a really good place, I'm also aware that in another blink I'll be at another, older still, stage. Now is the time when I can focus on what's important to me and be in my own "playground". It's a decision to take, and to make, time for ourselves.





Choice of attention - to pay attention to this and ignore that - is to the inner life what choice of action is to the outer. In both cases, a man is responsible for his choice and must accept the consequences whatever they may be.
- W.H. Auden





It's been a month since I noticed the stats on the blog. When I first mentioned them, I made sure to say that they did not upset me. And they still don't. In fact, I have found them very calming. They have focused me away from any "creative career" thoughts and in the direction of developing my own work from a more personal and aggressive perspective. It's "me" oriented in a healthy way. I'm looking forward to sharing the coat pictures.





Sunday was the one year anniversary of my move to this small, creative community. It was a fabulous decision and I'm so glad to be living here. It's been holistically healthy (emotionally, physically, relationally, spiritually, financially... and for me creatively) in many ways. Years ago, I took a Year of Play that did - as the earlier quote suggested - change my perspective on life both in and out of the studio. I see this coming year as the Year of Health with a focus on making healthy choices in all of these holistic areas. It's not a BIG PLAN charting this, that, and the other thing. It's a decision to move differently, to move in even more healthy directions that I know will impact both today and the future.

IMHO, we all need to stop and take inventory every once in a while and ask ourselves am I doing what I really want to do and if not, what am I willing to do differently? When life is going wonderfully, there may be small tweaks and when life is not going wonderfully, perhaps it's time for a change of perspective and for play.

Talk soon - Myrna

Grateful - soothing scenery

18 comments:

  1. I am looking forward to seeing the process pictures. I'm always glad to see a new post here. Your process fascinates me.

    Lois K

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    1. I have company for the next three or four days so hopefully right after that. If I remember, I'll get her to take some photos of me wearing it.

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  2. Your thoughtful posts are always a good read. The coat looks beautiful. Look forward to seeing you wearing it! The photos included with this post are beautiful -- can almost smell the fresh air!! Refreshing!

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    1. It is gorgeous here. Walking along the lake is so calm and peaceful. I'm really enjoying it.

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  3. I enjoyed your thoughts and your photos, and I look forward to learning about the great coat!

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    1. I'm glad. Thanks for letting me know.

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  4. I really enjoy reading your post. I also look forward to reading about your coat.

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    1. The post about the coat will be up next week for sure. I have company for the rest of this one and I'm not sure when I'll get time to write what will probably be a long - or more than one - post. ASAP.

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  5. The coat looks fabulous. Since I know that pics are just a reminder of that moment of beauty, your walk must have been even more spectacular. You are living in such a beautiful place and it is a delight to get to appreciate it whenever possible. yes, th moments are fleeting so the key is to focus on the present.

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    1. I'm glad I moved at a point in my life where I can take the time to really enjoy where I live and develop getting out there habits. It's good.

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  6. Your words and pictures make me more and more eager to finally pull the plug on my work life and get into my "other" life 100%. I have been seriously contemplating this academic year as my last; even working part time as I am gets in the way of my creative pursuits. We shall see what the year brings...

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    1. Money is always a factor but there is more than one way to earn it. My tenants have become my job and once I've done all the work around them I can focus on that "other" life. It's good. I highly recommend getting there as fast as you can. We never know what life will hold up ahead. My husband just found out he's going on strike on Monday and he's stressing and I'm saying just take a couple weeks to rest and then we'll see what's happening and decide from there. God always provides.

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  7. I'm such an outdoors person, were I fortunate enough to have such beautiful natural surroundings as you I might never perform another domestic chore/obligation or responsibility again. Gorgeous! I can imagine fall is a most beautiful season there. Hope you share more pictures of the area and mountains. :)

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    1. LOL - thanks for the encouragement to share more pictures. It is a beautiful area. I'm getting out for as many walks as possible while the weather lasts.

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  8. I enjoyed reading your thoughts and look forward to seeing the progress photos of the magnificent coat. Wonderful outdoors you have, too!
    Sue

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    1. My friend took some photos of me wearing the coat today so I just need to take the detail shots and start putting together the posting. It is coming. I am lucky to live in such a beautiful area and in a community that has created a lot of walking trails.

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  9. Just thinking it has been about a year since Marcy Tilton changed her blog and web site no longer including links in her blog. I don't think you have lost readers - just lost a link that would let those not familiar with you discover your blog.

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    1. It doesn't really matter what the reason is. The stats do count all sorts of devices and they are what they are and I am okay with what that means for me. I'm really enjoying playing in my studio and making a home. I got married young and this is the first time I've really been able to give that so much attention. It's a gift I want to enjoy.

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Thanks for commenting. I appreciate the feedback and the creative conversation.