Friday, October 20, 2017

The Two Year Mark

This past Sunday, I drove to Calgary to spend several days with my daughter and her family. Jessica was graduating with her degree in accounting and I wanted to attend the convocation and celebrate with her which meant...

... looking after my grandsons while Jessica and her husband went out for dinner together. The boys are two and four and it was so fun to watch them play together, to get woken up with snuggles and kisses, and to attend my oldest grandson's karate and swimming lessons. I also...

... spent a day with my friend Mary. While waiting for our table at lunch, we went to a nearby consignment shop that carries brand name clothing. I didn't buy this sweater even though I loved it but only because the colour just wasn't right and the content was mostly synthetic so I couldn't over-dye it. I did...

... get these pictures and will combine Drops 69-9 and Drops 56-21 to knit something similar. Mary and I shopped, had lunch, and then knit at a local yarn store where I bought a similar weight of yarn in purple. That's more my style.

The drive home was an adventure. Due to heavy traffic, it took me an hour to get from my daughter's to the highway. I stopped for breakfast and journal writing in Canmore and stopped again in Banff to visit some galleries and the Christmas store. The weather was great there but...

... further along the road there were wind gusts, heavy rain, water pooling, snow dust, and then slushy snow as well as LOTS of construction. In one 75 km period, I was stopped five times for over an hour and a half in total. It's a good thing...

... I had my knitting along. This is the second sleeve of the second child's size 18 month cardigan that I'm knitting from the yarn that I first knit into two shawls when I flew to Winnipeg and back last month. I didn't like the shawls. The knit was too loose. It's better here. I knit one cardigan using only the variegated yarn and one using a combination of the variegated and a grey yarn. There's one piece left to knit and then I can block the pieces and sew the cardigans together. Photos then. Knitting and sewing in children's sizes is something I find quite relaxing. It's a way to play and experiment with no expectations of fit or flatter. It's also a great way to use up scraps of fabric or yarn.

Last night, I helped my friend Wendy set up her new studio. I kept telling her it was something I'd love to help her with and that it wasn't an imposition at all - that it'd be something I'd really enjoy. I don't think she believed me at first but after we'd put the main furniture pieces in place and were talking organization and decor, she said she could see my enthusiasm. YES YES. She's an amazing decorator so I can hardly wait to see it with all her touches.

It was two years in September since I moved to Salmon Arm. Wendy was my realtor but I'd known her for quite a long time before that although we were more acquaintances than the good friends that we're becoming. It was nice to know someone when I moved especially as I had never moved anywhere as an adult before and had no idea what to expect. I realized other day that the two year mark is significant.

At two years, you're not new anymore nor are you completely integrated. While I've met lots of interesting people and some - like Wendy - are becoming better friends, there's no one I'd call at two in the morning in an emergency. Two years is long enough to develop some patterns that could become ruts if I'm not aware and it's long enough to have tested out some groups but not necessarily to have found the ones you want to belong to. I'm thrilled with my two knitting groups that meet weekly and now I'm looking for some once a month opportunities. Yesterday, I attended a trade fair for the Women In Business association to see whether I might like to join that. The monthly luncheon with discussion appeals to me and the members I talked to seemed quite impressed with the group so it looks good so far.

Two years is also long enough to see who is going to keep in touch and make the effort to come visit and who is not likely too. That can be sad and it's reality. One thing I am learning as I age is how to be more graceful about the relationships lost that I had hoped to keep and to realize that even though I may have multiple things in common with someone, it doesn't mean the relationship is going to work and apparently two years is also long enough to have tried a few groups that didn't work and to have discontinued Some relationships that weren't going anywhere good. AND...

... two years is about right for getting settled and finding a daily/weekly routine that feels comfortable. While I still have some work to do finishing up the renovations, I am looking forward to this stretch of time between now and Christmas when I can get into the studio and really enjoy being creative. I have a purse, a t-shirt, and a necklace pending along with a sweater for myself to finish knitting and another one to start, a dress to cut off, a skirt to copy and take-in, and LOTS of potential pending. Although I'm experiencing the ebb and flow of emotions around moving and the reality of this two year mark, it's more an awareness and hasn't changed how happy I am to be here and working in my studio.

Talk soon - Myrna

- helping Wendy with her studio


  1. Congratulations on your daughter's graduation!

    1. LOL - thanks. As I said to my son-in-law, it was a long road to here - I had to give birth first.

  2. We moved this summer to our dream location, but it is a move from everything and everybody that have been comfortable and familiar for over 20 years. It has been interesting and helpful to watch your transition. Thanks for your insight. Lois K

    1. You're welcome. I was just talking to my son about this "two year mark" this morning and how even though I'm feeling a bit grey (which matches the weather) it's also an excellent opportunity to shift slightly or significantly and continue to discover new things to see and do and new things to create. I'm so glad that wherever I go, my studio goes with me.

  3. Friends of ours here in town are considering moving to Portugal--how's that for far away from home??

    Congrats to your daughter and to you as well. You've done wonders with the place; may your daughter do wonders with her degree.

    1. I have huge admiration for people who move countries and continents. I'm not sure I have what it takes especially if it also includes switching languages. That's one of the things I did not like about being in Europe a couple years ago. I could make myself understood in terms of directions or ordering food or finding the bathroom but I couldn't participate in the conversations going on around me. That's a huge part of who I am and I'd find it hard patiently getting to fluent enough to have subjective conversations.

      Jessica has been employed in the industry for over ten years and has a fabulous job heading an accounting department for a marketing company. She wanted the paper just in case at some point down the line she might need it. For this job, they came looking for her so perhaps she never will but it's certainly an accomplishment.


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